Find a quiet moment, make yourselves a drink and talk through the questions together. You may be surprised by what you discover.
10 Questions to Help Create a Ceremony That's Uniquely Yours
1. How would you like your ceremony to feel?
Would you like it to be relaxed and joyful, romantic and emotional, light hearted and full of laughter or all of the above.
2. What do you love most about each other?
Think about the qualities you admire, the little things that make you smile and what makes your relationship special.
3. Which part of your story would you like to share?
Your ceremony could include how you met, memorable moments form your life together, the proposal or the journey that has brought you to your wedding day.
4. Are there people you would like to involve?
Family members and friends could contribute a reading, poem, song, blessing or a few words of their own. They could also take part in a symbolic element of the ceremony.
5. Would you like to write your own vows?
Your vows can be romantic, heartfelt, humorous or beautifully simple. They do not need to sound perfect - they only need to be honest and meaningful to you.
6. Are there any traditions you would like to include, change or leave behind?
You can keep the traditions that mean something to you, adapt them to suit your relationship or create new traditions of your own.
7. Would a symbolic ritual add something special?
You might consider handfasting, a ring blessing, sand blending, candle lighting or another ritual that reflects your relationship, family, culture or beliefs.
8. Is there a special place, person or memory you would like to honour?
There may be someone you would like to remember, a family connection to acknowledge or place that has played an important part in your story.
9. What would you like your guests to remember?
Would you like them to leave smiling, laughing, feeling moved or saying "That ceremony was completely them"?
10. Of there were no rules, what would your perfect ceremony look like?
Let your imagination take over. your ceremony odes not have to follow a set format. It can be created around who you are, what your value and how you want to celebrate your commitment.
